sweet lolita loving M
thanks for asking! i’ve thought about this because i think it’s super relevant but i didn’t wanna make my posts long/tl;dr so i didn’t include it BUT
for a specific topic, i don’t mind pseudonyms at all. if we’re having a conversation that isn’t flirty and/or sexual, just asking questions, i don’t even need people to be anon!
howeverrrr if you’re someone who wants to send me submissions once a week or something, i’d prefer if you didn’t use a pseudonym. i might recognize you and know it’s you week to week, but i have the freedom to engage that or not (and probably i won’t).
so like, anything that’s a bounded one-night type convo, it’s all good! use pseudonyms. like if i post your submission and you wanna ask a question, give me more info, say thanks, w/e, by all means reference that you’re the person in the photo (by using a pseudonym not an account)! but if you message me again later than week, don’t tell me “i’m the one who sent you photo x” or something. don’t drag things out and expect me to remember you day to day; i don’t want to and i shouldn’t have to.
in some cases i might but tbh, a big part of my “i post all submissions” rule is that body/sex positivity is important to me and i wanna validate everyone’s bravery in showing off their body and sexuality. HOWEVER. it doesn’t necessarily mean that i’m attracted to you, and i feel like it would defeat the purpose if i made a BIG DEAL around one person’s submissions and not another persons. eliminating continuity eliminates the pressure of having to be enthusiastic about a person (and risk them thinking i feel things about them that i don’t feel) and instead i can just be enthusiastic about the submission. which i am! but just… don’t think i remember you all and daydream about you and wish you were here to fuck me. it’s cool if you think that about me (lol tbh i love it) BUT i don’t want the pressure of having to reciprocate to any/every particular person just cause i was nice about someone’s submissions.
this is a blog, not the totality of my sex life. when i close the window, i mostly stop thinking about it. it’s fun but i’m not looking to build relationships or find partners through it.
ah, i should edit my submissions requirement page… ugh work…
YO that is a cool thing to know and i will pass it on to my friend in case she doesn’t know. thank you so much for telling me!!!