Does anyone know a good mainstream movie about the lifestyle, like Secretary? Ian,
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pervertsofcolor:

subbieblackgrl:

I don’t, but I’ll put the question out there for others.

Exit to Eden

they made a movie of it? does the femdom stay femdom or do they wuss out and have her unchain him so he can get dommy all the time like in the book, pissed me the fuck off tbh, anne rice is better at gay UST than she is at str8 ppl

dapart:

Sketch of a Maya couple. A scene showing a man getting intoxicated via an enema (assisted by his wife). These enema scenes with intoxicated individuals appear in many Maya works of art and was still practiced by many when the Spaniards came - such as the Huastecs (Teneek) of the Gulf coast who speak a Mayan language, were known to partake in this tradition in the time of the Aztecs. Based on a Maya vase painting dating to the Classic period: http://research.mayavase.com/kerrmaya_hires.php?vase=8763

dapart:

Sketch of a Maya couple. A scene showing a man getting intoxicated via an enema (assisted by his wife). These enema scenes with intoxicated individuals appear in many Maya works of art and was still practiced by many when the Spaniards came - such as the Huastecs (Teneek) of the Gulf coast who speak a Mayan language, were known to partake in this tradition in the time of the Aztecs. Based on a Maya vase painting dating to the Classic period: http://research.mayavase.com/kerrmaya_hires.php?vase=8763

ebonywankbank:

Skin Diamond and Jada Fire in passionate lesbian scene [x]

"How could anyone ever trust a ‘yes’ in your consent model?" Well, that’s exactly the question, isn’t it?

malesubmissionart:

maymay:

This is a for-real thing that was said on Twitter.

unquietpirate:

MRA CONCERN TROLL: it’s the idea that you can retroactively revoke consent to sex that is worrisome. from “Ooh baby, do it to me!” to “i didn’t consent even though I said, ‘ooh baby do it to me’ so it was rape.” how could someone ever possibly trust a “yes” in your consent model?

ME: Well, that’s exactly the question, isn’t it? The whole point is that “yes” is necessary but not sufficient for consent. How do you trust an utterance that’s made in any other context where you don’t have a contract? Certainly, no reasonable person would argue that just because a given interaction or relationship lacks an enforceable contract, nobody in that interaction can ever trust what the other person says to them.

But you develop that trust in a sexual relationship the same way you develop it in any other relationship. If someone says “ooh baby, do it to me” and *still* feels like their boundaries were violated by the way you did it to them afterwards, that suggests there are some real problems in your relationship. And those problems might be more important ones to address than whether or not you technically had permission.

Ultimately, I don’t think you’re asking the right question. People retroactively realize their boundaries were violated all the time, regardless of what we say about it. (We’re just saying it’s okay to talk about that.) So, the important question isn’t, “How can you ever have sex if you don’t trust your partner’s yes?” It’s “If you don’t trust someone’s yes, why would you ever have sex with them?”

MAYMAY: This exchange perfectly showcases what we’ve been saying. Objections to Consent-as-Felt are coming from folks who want to have sex more than they want to have even a minimally respectful relationship, even and arguably especially if that r’ship spans only one sexual encounter. Their problem is “but consent is such a *hassle*!” That’s why Consent-as-Felt is so useful right now, today. Asking ppl about it is like using a rapist detector.

(Links added.)

The full thread(s) on Twitter are epic. Start here and scroll down. And get popcorn.

plantbaby98:

last night was fun.

plantbaby98:

last night was fun.

princeloptr:

people who think “labels r bad” are laboring underneath a fundamental misunderstanding of language and of human psychology

i encourage these people to look up information on color as a social construct (heres a place to start)

why is this relevant? well, this might come as a shock to you, but the human ability to see and distinguish color is directly related to how we define color with words. the language of color usually evolves from a few dichotomies — dark and light, cold and warm. how it develops from there is dependant on the culture — and their environment — and the consequence of this is that different cultures may have completely different perceptions of color

if the language you have at your disposal doesnt distinguish between two types of color — for example, different warmths of brown, or the hue differences between yellow-green and blue-green — then you may find it difficult to actually see the difference between those colors. someone who speaks a language that does? would see the contrast like night and day

think about that for awhile. mull it over in your mind. think about all the things you begin to notice as soon as you learn the words for them. think about how taxonomy effects you in your daily life. NAMES ARE IMPORTANT. names are the difference between the visible and invisible

if you find yourself chafing at the idea of people giving names (“labels”) to themselves, think about this: what is it that youre trying not to see?

plumbat:

workneverover:

*smiles indulgently*

In due time.

That is some grade A primo squirming right there.

courtneytrouble:

Here is a GIF of me in suspension bondage from when Dave Naz shot me for Lesbian Curves 2: Hard Femme this summer, making it one of my favorite performances of 2013.

These daily GIFs are to celebrate my AVN Award nomination for BBW Performer of the Year. The AVN Awards are on Saturday. ;)

see the pics